The Zombies Ate My Brains

Rescuing what might remain of the grey matter.

Untitled

Radio Silence

If you are like me, you might not be able to write your post without a title. For me, at the very least, I need a working title, a placeholder. Only then am I able to begin writing.

With that in mind, here’s the list of the titles that I dismissed before landing on “Untitled.”

  • Checking In
  • Ghosting
  • It’s Not You, It’s Me
  • Radio Silence
  • I’ll be Seeing You (…well, not “Seeing” seeing you, but… ah heck, you know what I mean.)
  • Fade Out
  • Miss Manners Needs an Upgrade on How to Deal with Absence from the Blogs

I even thought of “Seasons Greetings” but decided that was misleading.

So, with that, I just want to say, “Hey, folks. I’m here. I’m doing fine – happily tucked into winter (the temperature dropped to minus 17 C overnight.) I’ve been reading your blogs and commenting, but cannot think of thing to say on my site, and I don’t know if I am sliding into another blank patch or not. Maybe it’s a case of spending too much time online and at the keyboard working on my other projects to devote the attention that is needed here.”

One thing I do know, for about a week now, I’ve debated whether to delete the WordPress bookmark. Not give up the blog, entirely, but remove the reminder that is front and center on my computer screen.

I can’t just do that, can I?

Well, of course I can.

But that’s not right! 

There’s nothing right or not right about it. It happens all the time. People simply drop off the face of the blog-o-sphere never to be heard from again.

But… but…

But what?

You see my dilemma.

Is it winter? Seasonal stuff? Is it writer’s block?

Who knows?

One thing is certain,  I feel compelled to say something by way of explanation for my absence.

I know you’ll understand.

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By way of tempting fates, I’m tethering this post to the Daily Prompt, since after I wrote this, I saw that the daily prompt is “Degree.” Maybe I just need to prime the pump. 

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  1. I can’t click the ‘like’ because it sounds as though you are conflicted and that’s not always a good place to be. On the other hand, lots of good decisions come out of conflicted feelings…so maybe it is. See? I don’t know whether to like this or not. But I am glad you are safe and tucked into winter. I’m being dragged kicking and screaming into winter. Your way seems nicer.

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  2. There are times I think I burn myself out trying to be original with my answers on sites and trying to keep the readers’ interest on my posts as well. I’m not the most imaginative or well-spoken person in the world!! 🙂

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  3. I’ve been struggling lately myself, to be honest. Let’s blame Trump.

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  4. You are definitely not alone in those feelings. I often wonder – as much as I love blogging – “is this the best use of my retirement time?” Know that we are out here and will welcome you back anytime you feel like checking in… just check in now and then, please. You really are missed when you go quiet.

    Enjoy your winter, your holidays, and your days away from the keyboard.

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    • Ah, thank you. As I was writing, and now as I’m responding to comments, I get that ol’ buzz of connection and it’s feedback like yours that is the real prize – knowing that it matters, in an inconsequential-in-the-grand-scheme-of-things kind of way.

      What is particularly telling is this: there is a notice from WordPress alerting me that the theme subscription expires the first of the year, on the anniversary – I asked myself, will you renew? I’m fairly certain that the answer is “yes.”

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    • Plus time away can show you how much your blog does (or does not) mean to you, and whether the time IS better spent elsewhere. If it feels like a chore, a job, a “should”, something is off.

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  5. I hear you, Maggie. I have been a bit quiet since my little Teemu passed. And then Christmas is coming (not my favorite holiday) and heck, Trump was in town last night….I am so unoriginal with words that my title is most always “Daily Prompt: (insert word here).”

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  6. To everything there is a season…. I hope you will keep the door open and write when the mood or the muse strikes. I always enjoy your blog posts. And I am happy to join the ranks of those who blame Trump. The world has changed dramatically over the last year . . . and mostly not in a good way. Though I think the title of your blog is more relevant than ever.

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  7. Maggie, it’s the beginning winter blahs! Plow through it and keep writing! Renew! Look forward to your posts of anything! Christine

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  8. I hit a spot every now and then when it’s like, “WTH am I doing blogging?? It’s fluff, fluff and damned fluff! So, I stop, and then I start writing 3-paragraph comments on other folks’ blogs, and I figure maybe I’d better just go back to my own blog and say something, even if it’s not earth shattering (uh, like usual, LOL). Don’t you DARE go anywhere, dammit. Ok? 😀

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  9. Please don’t leave us completely! You would be sorely missed . . .

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  10. thanks for checking in, Maggie. I do worry when long time bloggers drop out of sight. I accept the fact that people lose interest and move on with other things in life and blogging is a hobby as much as knitting or tatting (I don’t even know what that is) and we try new things. I hope if you do decide to quit you’ll let us know so we can say adieu. In the meantime, I shall enjoy your occasional company.

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  11. I think blogging is something we can do or not do as our muse dictates. If you were to not blog, I would miss you, but fact is, it’s not a job, it’s something to be done for the pleasure, or release, of it. And Relax, I suspect fluff is more sorely needed now than it has been for a long time.

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    • Thanks, Carol – that’s exactly my situation, I think – blogging is something I do for a hobby. Lately, though, I’ve been doing similar social media “work” for the assorted non-profits here in Cobalt. That has been a very satisfying use of my time. But at the end of the day, I don’t have extra time or energy to devote to blog writing. It’s a phase. It just happens to coincide with the dark days of the year.

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  12. Sometimes I want to go looking for a blogger that is MIA. But then, I’ve taken those breaks without an explanation often, and I remember how I felt. So take as long as you need, Maggie, but don’t go away. We’d miss you.

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    • Yes, we have both been down this road before.

      It’s an unusual thing, this social media connection. You feel compelled to inquire after someone’s well being, you feel fondly about them, you care for them. But when you get to the point of looking for their private email address you realize, no, that’s a step too far. Well, I do, anyway.

      That’s why I followed through on writing today. To fulfill my part of the what I call the social media bargain: I’ll engage with you, if you engage with me. But we both reserve the right to withdraw if and when we need to.

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  13. Take whatever breaks you need, but please don’t go away entirely. I love the simple posts about your life and goings on way far away to my northeast so please keep writing. I’m still holding onto the idea that a few of my most favorite bloggers will resurface and it’s been over 2 years for them… 😉 BTW, I think that I may have used both “Checking In” and “Radio Silence” myself at some point.

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  14. Oh my. I title last. Ramble first, then title.
    It’s good to read you, no apology required. I wasn’t fond of your previous vanishing, but you don’t OWE us blog posts 🙂

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  15. Well, I hope you hang in there and get through the funk. I’m good with anything you want to post. -17c is pretty much nothing on the F-scale. That’s coid. We get that cold, but not this early in the season. I think that would slow me down.

    Take care, Maggie.

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    • Thanks for your kindness Dan – If I may quibble, it’s not a funk, actually. I’m feeling content and in a good place. It’s just that I have been spending considerable chunks of my time on similar work for the non-profits here in Cobalt. So, at the end of the day, I don’t have spare creative or social energy to devote to my blogging hobby. It’s a phase, I’m fairly certain.

      Stay warm!

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  16. Take the time you need, Maggie…we’ll all be here when you come back…with lots of new stories of your neck of the woods. Stay warm, and stay you!

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  17. I think Untitled works fine. Certainly got my attention. We bloggers all need to take time off from time to time, Without feeling guilty too! Go on, you can do it. You’ll come back refreshed. Then you entitled your next post “Titled”.

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  18. May the zombies give you all your brains back. For what it’s worth, I write first then come up with the title

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  19. Yeah, we all get stuck at times. You, me, all of us. It’ll pass!

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  20. I get those blank spots too. I think after you’ve been blogging for a while you kinda run out of steam. I’ve taken to noting any idea, no matter how lame, on a list app on my mobile phone. Sometimes days later it becomes worth a go, or other material somehow wraps itself around it. Today’s post was one of those!

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  21. OMG, I can relate to this post so much. Lately I’ve had my head down at the bottom of the barrel licking anything that might taste good for ideas. Nothing has, but it’s given me a reason to take more of my share of Tylenol just in case. And, yes, I cannot move forward without a stinkin’ title. I hate being so damn linear!

    Chin up, Maggie. It’s just the season, I’m sure. The ideas will eventually come flowing out along with the spring sap. So to speak. 🙂 – Marty

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    • LOL – Well, my dear. I’m sorry that you can relate. At the same time, I’m glad. Is that what it’s called? Being linear? It surely fits my particular peculiarity.

      Which means I just called you peculiar, so please forgive?

      I’m with you, though – it is a phase – an ebb and flow thing. I’m into ebb at the moment.

      Cheers!

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  22. I enjoy your blog very much, but I think that whether or not you continue is up to you. My suggestion (for what it’s worth) would be to simply allow yourself to take a little break if that’s what feels right rather than delete this site altogether. Sometimes we just don’t feel like posting, and then it becomes a chore. Blogs aren’t supposed to add stress to our life! I used to post every four days, and that felt too hard. Now I do it mostly once a week, and I’m enjoying it so much more. I think we all have to find the pattern that works for us.

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    • Thank you, Ann – your words are helpful – if I may elaborate: it feels like I’m driving a busload of folks and we all more or less have a common understanding of the route. I, on the other hand, need to take an unplanned break and am worried about how the rest will feel. Right or wrong, even though this is my blog/bus I feel the need to consult. Is that weird, or what? One of these days, I hope to find that comfortable pattern.

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  23. Well , UNTITLED is good ; but , now that you’ve used that title , can you use it again ? See , now , you may have created another problem . ( Just trying to help .) I have used XXXXX .

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  24. Oh, I get what you’re saying here. I have times when I feel like my head [ego?] wants me to write something, but spirit says meh not interested in sharing. It’s tricky business keeping a personal blog when your personal life doesn’t present you with something you want to write about. Hang in there, I’m sure a blog post or two will manifest when the time is right for you to write.

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    • Thanks, Ally. Ego certainly does play a part in what I do, or do not, write about. And it is definitely part of my conundrum about this particular post. I didn’t want to be seen as having bad manners for just slipping away without saying “out to lunch” but then, I didn’t want to make a big deal of it either.
      Ah, human frailty.

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  25. I go for periods of time I “avoid” WP. Not because I don’t enjoy reading various blogs, but I also feel like I’m being redundant. So, I have just returned to writing for myself. That’s how I started and that’s how I’ve worked through some of my challenges. Also, life changes, sometimes it speeds up, sometimes it slows down. I say do what feel right in your heart.

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  26. There are times when I am giddy with new ideas and then there is winter, both the season and the metaphor. The only problem with winter is when we let it get us down – that and it is hard on the diet. Really hard on the diet.

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  27. The fact that I’m just finding this blog post now – almost 2 weeks later – gives you an indication of my haphazard time on the blogosphere.

    I think the ebb-and-flow are natural in just about everything – not to mention that we need to stay grounded in the real world. If we do it right, it’s where all the real action is!

    For purely selfish reasons (I love hearing from you), I hope this current blogging ‘break’ isn’t going to be as long as the last one – or worse! I hope you don’t decide to disappear! 🙂

    Merry Christmas, Maggie. Hope you have a wonderful holiday and come back fully energized ❤️

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  28. I CAN click Like. You know I’ve been there. Done that that several times. Don’t feel bad, we all need a “vacation” at times.

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  29. awww… I took a year long sabbatical and am back up and running. Sometimes we just need a period of time to dwell in quiet reflection. Please don’t delete anything!!!

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  30. Dear Maggie, hope you get through this slump and you find a way back to blogging.
    I write due to switching to a warehouse job after teaching middle school, working as an acitivies director and then preschool special Ed. I needed to feed my brain. . .so funny, your blog name is like how I felt in 2012 when I started my blog. Hugs, Robin
    Hope you stop by once in awhile. 🎉 ✨

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  31. I’ve only just seen your post! I hope you’re okay and have been enjoying time away from your blog. It’s quite all right to leave blogging (I did for a couple or more years), and if you return people will still remember you and be there waiting for you. I’ve missed seeing your posts, now I know why I haven’t.

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